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A house girl in Nairobi brought her threats to reality. This happened after her boss terminated her contract due to some misunderstanding making her unhappy and threatened to harm the children.
True to her words, she stubbed the two kids leaving them with serious injuries. She also threatened the new house girl who tried to save the children from the horror.
Sources say that she later boarded a bus to Busia. Not getting to her destiny, she was apprehended on her way at Eldoret town. The girl had been employed for two years with good salary. She was bitter but her action left many puzzled.
Parents, let’s be a bit vigilant!… Let’s chat as we comment on how we can improve our children’s security.
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Children can learn a lot from doing household chores. Here is a video on children and house chores…for more of such…just subscribe..
Doing chores helps children learn about what they need to do to care for themselves, a home and a family. They learn skills they can use in their adult lives, like preparing meals, cleaning, organising and keeping a garden.
Being involved in chores also gives children experience of relationship skills like communicating clearly, negotiating, cooperating and working as a team.
When children contribute to family life, it helps them feel competent and responsible. Even if they don’t enjoy the chore, when they keep going they get the feeling of satisfaction that comes with finishing a task.
And sharing housework can also help families work better and reduce family stress. When children help out, chores get done sooner, and parents have less to do. This frees up time for the family to spend doing fun things together.
How to involve the child
The secret for involving children in household chores is asking for contributions that you value and that suit your children’s ages and abilities. A chore that’s too hard for a child can be frustrating – or even dangerous – and one that’s too easy might be boring.
Even a young child can start to help out if you choose activities that are right for his age. You can start with simple jobs like looking after his own toys. Chores like this send the message to your child that his contribution is important.
It’s also important to think about chores or tasks that get your child involved in caring for the family as a whole. A simple one is getting your child to help with setting or clearing the table. Jobs like these are likely to give your child a sense of responsibility and participation.
If your child is old enough, you can have a family discussion about chores. This can reinforce the idea that the whole family contributes to how the household runs. Children over six years old can help decide which chores they’d prefer.
You can motivate your child to get involved in chores by:
- doing the chore together until your child is ready to do it on her own
- being clear about what each person’s chores are for each day or week – write them down so they’re easy to remember
- talking about why it’s great that a particular job has been done
- showing an interest in how your child has done the job.
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The shocking news of a 22 year man kill father, mother, brother and a cousin using a knife had left many with unanswered questions.
At that fateful night, the son started by killing a worker who was within the compound. This made it easy to attack other members without interruption.
How he killed all these people is still a puzzle. What could have caused such great hatred that triggered him to eliminate almost entire family?
Only her two sisters who had reported back to school escaped the horrifying ordeal.
Could he be on hard substances? It is a sad story to tell. May be this son was stressed but nobody noticed or mentally disturbed. For now, it is hard to take sides.
Let’s be keen to notice slightest behavioral changes in our children. We may prevent the worst from happening.
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Children also get stressed
The challenges that have come with the corona virus are not only being experienced by adult but children are not spared too. Children have been suffering silently without parents’ knowledge.
Childhood stress can be present in any setting that requires the child to adapt or change. Stress may be caused by positive changes, such as starting a new activity, but it is most commonly linked with negative changes such as illness or death in the family.
You can help your child by learning to recognize the signs of stress and teaching your child healthy ways to deal with it.
Stress may be a response to a negative change in a child’s life. In small amounts, stress can be good. But, excessive stress can affect the way a child thinks, acts, and feels.
Children learn how to respond to stress as they grow and develop. Many stressful events that an adult can manage will cause stress in a child. As a result, even small changes can impact a child’s feelings of safety and security.
Pain, injury, illness, and other changes are stressors for children. Stressors may include:
- Worrying about schoolwork or grades
- Juggling responsibilities, such as school and work or sports
- Problems with friends, bullying, or peer group pressures
- Changing schools, moving, or dealing with housing problems or homelessness
- Having negative thoughts about themselves
- Going through body changes, in both boys and girls
- Seeing parents go through a divorce or separation
- Money problems in the family
- Living in an unsafe home or neighborhood
SIGNS OF UNRESOLVED STRESS IN CHILDREN
Children may not recognize that they are stressed. New or worsening symptoms may lead parents to suspect an increased stress level is present.
Physical symptoms can include:
- Decreased appetite, other changes in eating habits
- Headache
- New or recurrent bedwetting
- Nightmares
- Sleep disturbances
- Upset stomach or vague stomach pain
- Other physical symptoms with no physical illness
Emotional or behavioral symptoms may include:
- Anxiety, worry
- Not able to relax
- New or recurring fears (fear of the dark, fear of being alone, fear of strangers)
- Clinging, unwilling to let you out of sight
- Anger, crying, whining
- Not able to control emotions
- Aggressive or stubborn behavior
- Going back to behaviors present at a younger age
- Doesn’t want to participate in family or school activities
HOW PARENTS CAN HELP
Parents can help children respond to stress in healthy ways. Following are some tips:
- Provide a safe, secure, and dependable home.
- Family routines can be comforting. Having a family dinner or movie night can help relieve or prevent stress.
- Be a role model. The child looks to you as a model for healthy behavior. Do your best to keep your own stress under control and manage it in healthy ways.
- Be careful about which television programs, books, and games that young children watch, read, and play. News broadcasts and violent shows or games can produce fears and anxiety.
- Keep your child informed of anticipated changes such as in jobs or moving.
- Spend calm, relaxed time with your children.
- Learn to listen. Listen to your child without being critical or trying to solve the problem right away. Instead work with your child to help them understand and solve what is upsetting to them.
- Build your child’s feelings of self-worth. Use encouragement and affection. Use rewards,to involve your child in activities where they can succeed.
- Allow the child opportunities to make choices and have some control in their life. The more your child feels they have control over a situation, the better their response to stress will be.
- Encourage physical activity.
- Recognize signs of unresolved stress in your child.
- Seek help or advice from a health care provider, counselor, or therapist when signs of stress do not decrease or disappear.
WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR
Talk to your child’s provider if your child:
- Is becoming withdrawn, more unhappy, or depressed
- Is having problems in school or interacting with friends or family
- Is unable to control their behavior or anger
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Today being 4th of January, the schools gates are open again not only for the old students but also for everyone who wants to transfer the child due to different reasons.
The pupils in primary school were seen much excited to be back to school. Almost 90% of the students were present. This gives a clear picture that parents were either tired of staying with the children at home or they were well prepared.
Though all the learners were having their masks on, keeping social distance was an issue. As was seen in some schools, a teacher was to handle more than 50 children.
The government issued a statement that even teenage girls that got pregnant or gave birth should be allowed to go back to school.
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It seems as if the morals and values in the society escaped through the window immediately we opened doors for the digital lifestyle.
Respect of elders is a past thing and the adults are not sparing the children too in their evil plans. As long as the child doesn’t belong to them, they don’t care what they are doing with the child.
Love of money and lust has contributed a lot to the death of values in the society. People are willing to do anything no matter how bad it is as long as they get what they want.
Will we ever enjoy the life where people respected each? Life that was full of collaboration and team work towards goals to success.
I would like to imagine that the life will are in is just a dream and soon I will wake up to the reality, but no, it is what is happening day in day out!
Our kids are rotten, obedience and discipline are no where to be traced. Adults have ceased to be role models, elders who used to advise the young are no more. Where are we heading too?
Are you experiencing the same in your country or yours is different? I would love to hear it. Kindly leave a comment.
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Have you ever wondered why sometimes children go a stray as they grow up? We have seen children change their behaviour as they go through different stages of life.
Sometimes I wonder why some parents complain about the behaviour of their children when they have already grown up.
As a parent, if you honestly played your role when the child was growing, then you don’t have to regret. When these children grow, they also have choices to make. They might decide to go contrary to your will or adhere to your advice.
If you failed to give them the right direction, then you have yourself to blame. It is at the foundation that the house stand. If the foundation is weak, it may affect the rest of the building no matter how beautiful it might be.
So parents, let us play our role as much as we can. The rest we leave to God.
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As we raise our children, there are many obstacles that comes on our way. My Let’s know YouTube channel has tried to discuss some of them. If you haven’t visited it, kindly do it. Like, share and subscribe. Always remember to put notification on incase you miss the up coming videos.
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Go for charity work. Yes voluntary duties. This is the best way you can use your leisure time. Plus…. visiting the sick, the needy and elderly….
But due to the pandemic, it makes this a bit difficult or if done, we should be cautious to prevent spread of the virus – corona virus.
Pray for them too…offer service where possible.
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Have you ever insulted your child? Has your child suffered from name calling? Have you ever thought how this could cause a great mental harm to your child? Verbal abuse should not be taken lightly. This happens more with mothers than fathers. I believe after reading the article below , you will never do it again! You can as well watch the video below.
Daisy was a grade three child. She was a quiet girl who did her work silently. She wasn’t social and most of the time she spent all alone. Let me say that she wasn’t gifted in class work. She lived with her mother who didn’t understand her at all. Most of the time is when she scolded her calling her names like cow, dog, donkey, foolish and stupid.
There was this one name she liked calling her mostly, “Ng’ombe” meaning cow. Anytime she did something wrong, she would shout at her,” Ng’ombe!”
One day , while at school, they were asked to do a quiz which she got nothing.The teacher was so annoyed as she thought the quiz was easy for everyone in class. So she shouted at her,” Kwa nini unafanya kama ng’ombe? ” meaning, ” Why are you behaving like a cow?”
Daisy walked to her desk feeling devastated. She was afraid of becoming the laughing stock of the class. Having reached where she usually sat, she covered her face using her sweater and cried bitterly.
It was during the creative lesson one afternoon when the teacher issued the learners with plain papers. Then she told them, ” On this paper, draw anything you may think of. Make your picture as attractive as you can.”
Every learner was excited to have the lesson. They enjoyed the creative writing and after some time the teacher collected the papers for analysis.
When she was going through the work, she came across this one paper. On it, a cow with a human head was drawn! To her amazement, the paper belonged to Daisy. Before the class could leave for break, she requested Daisy to be left behind.
” Why did you draw such an animal? I haven’t seen such a creature!” she asked Daisy. Daisy looked at her and started crying. It took a long time before the teacher could convince her to talk. Finally, she was ready to let it out.
” My mother always calls me a cow anytime I do a mistake. I have never known I am one until you asked me why I was behaving like one! When you asked as to draw, I tried to imagine how I looked like in the eyes of my mother and that’s what I came out with.” she narrated.
The teacher was very sorry and remorseful. She apologized to Daisy and after some talk with her, she decided to invite the mother to come to school where they talked at length about the issue. They swallowed their pride by apologizing to Daisy and promised that it wouldn’t happen again.
This was the beginning of a new Daisy! Everything seemed to change beyond expectations. Her performance improved as her self esteem too. She became the peer leader in upper classes and participated in most of the school activities. What a good ending!
From the above we can all see what insults and verbal abuse can do to our children. Let’s all refrain from calling our children names, insulting and scolding unnecessarily. This may cause mental challenges in our children leaving them stressed. As we discipline and make them responsible , it is always good to use kind words. We should avoid damaging their self esteem as this may bring a great harm to their lives.
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Children can help out around the house in many different ways. For example, they can simply go outside to play when the grown-ups need to do big jobs in the house. Some families expect older children to help with younger children – amusing them, distracting them, protecting them and so on.
Here are some ideas for chores for children of different ages.
Toddlers (2-3 years)
- Pick up toys and books.
- Put clothes on clothes hooks.
- Set placemats on the dinner table.
Preschoolers (4-5 years)
- Set the table for meals.
- Help with preparing meals, under supervision.
- Help put clean clothes into piles for each family member, ready to fold.
- Help with grocery shopping and putting away groceries.
- Hand you wet clothes to be hung out to dry.
School-age children (6-8 years)
- Water the garden and indoor plants.
- Feed pets.
- Clean the bathroom sink, wipe down kitchen benches, mop floors or take out rubbish.
- Help hang out clothes and fold washing.
- Put away crockery and cutlery.
- Help with choosing meals and shopping.
- Help with meal preparation and serving, under supervision.
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Children can learn a lot from doing household chores. Here is a video on children and house chores…for more of such…just subscribe..
Doing chores helps children learn about what they need to do to care for themselves, a home and a family. They learn skills they can use in their adult lives, like preparing meals, cleaning, organising and keeping a garden.
Being involved in chores also gives children experience of relationship skills like communicating clearly, negotiating, cooperating and working as a team.
When children contribute to family life, it helps them feel competent and responsible. Even if they don’t enjoy the chore, when they keep going they get the feeling of satisfaction that comes with finishing a task.
And sharing housework can also help families work better and reduce family stress. When children help out, chores get done sooner, and parents have less to do. This frees up time for the family to spend doing fun things together.
How to involve the child
The secret for involving children in household chores is asking for contributions that you value and that suit your children’s ages and abilities. A chore that’s too hard for a child can be frustrating – or even dangerous – and one that’s too easy might be boring.
Even a young child can start to help out if you choose activities that are right for his age. You can start with simple jobs like looking after his own toys. Chores like this send the message to your child that his contribution is important.
It’s also important to think about chores or tasks that get your child involved in caring for the family as a whole. A simple one is getting your child to help with setting or clearing the table. Jobs like these are likely to give your child a sense of responsibility and participation.
If your child is old enough, you can have a family discussion about chores. This can reinforce the idea that the whole family contributes to how the household runs. Children over six years old can help decide which chores they’d prefer.
You can motivate your child to get involved in chores by:
- doing the chore together until your child is ready to do it on her own
- being clear about what each person’s chores are for each day or week – write them down so they’re easy to remember
- talking about why it’s great that a particular job has been done
- showing an interest in how your child has done the job.
You can also see other posts on children. You are free to leave your comment and follow us too for more updates.
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I take this opportunity to welcome all parents to my YouTube channel – Let’s Know
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClyvkMUdMAmiYR08kOUB4Ng
The stuff here will be based on parenting.
Kindly like, share with other parents and subscribe. Put notification on so that you don’t miss upcoming videos.
There is a sister channel Ciscas which has Children stuff on morals and values…
Help kids connect to it. It will be of great help to them. Here it is..
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Why did Liznet chose a bird for her next life? Catch the story What I would like to be in the next world – pt 1.
The visitors left and Liznet had a lot to tell her mother about her future world. She narrated her story:
In this world, there are so many problems. Children are being kidnapped day in day out. I see you watching news on television and most of the time, what make news is bad things like violence, robbery, war, floods, diseases and more. This is what people find interesting. I am fed up with this kind of life where everyone is scrambling for his or her wellbeing. I would like to have peace, go far away where nobody can get me. And I found all what I needed from a bird as I watched a flock soaring peacefully in the sky. No hatred, no hustle, no panic and no war. That’s why I decided to be a bird in the next life!
Liznet
Her mother looked at her with disbelief. She wondered why her five-year- old girl would be so optimistic on her future life. She had a task ahead…..catch the next part and hear what the mother told her daughter Liznet…. kindly, let me know your take on this through comments….if you come across this, kindly follow... A lot is in store… don’t miss!..Read also Life wasn’t easy at the village! (Part 2)- and enjoy my experience in the country side. Sometimes things becomes tough. Read How I made it (epi 2) – to see more.
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Digital Learning
Most of the learners in some of the developing countries are not gaining from digital migration that is taking place in most part of the world. Like in kenya, children from vulnerable backgrounds cannot afford purchasing smart gadgets leave alone paying for the internet. Moreover, most of the teachers who are supposed to teach the learners using the technology skills are also not well equipped.I am requesting all well wishers to join hands to assist this children and the teachers. The donations received will be used to buy necessary equipment and for teachers facilitation programs.
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Today marks the third Sunday of June which most part of the world recognize and celebrate fathers. I felt that I have to write this few lines on the fathers who leave the family responsibilities to the mothers and disappear from the seen just to come back when children are all grown. They misuse their youthful life only to return home when they have nothing to offer. Have a watch at this video. It is a special dedication to all Fathers.
Others are just there in the house leaving all responsibilities to the mothers. They can’t provide even a pencil to the school going child. They don’t want to work. It’s the duty of the mother to raise children and be the bread winner at the same time. Such fathers should understand that the children are watching and soon they will be grown-ups.
Fathers…remember you are the head of the family
Some are absent fathers only seen when there is curfew directives. Sometimes children see them after a fortnight or so, yet they live in the same house and when they appear, they want to be felt by making sure everyone responds when the cough. They don’t find it important to engage in raising children and they assume the task should be left to mothers only.
We have seen some fathers who don’t bother whether the child is sick or not, school fees is paid or not, took breakfast or not and some left school meetings as a mother- duty – only. They have never attended any school meetings. Not because they are busy, but that is meant for mothers as they say.
When these children grow up, they will recognize their mother more. This is where complains start coming up. Some accuse mothers that they have poisoned the children so much that they never recognize nor respect their father.
Respect is earned…if you need it, then work for it!
I have this message to all Fathers, you might think that participating in bringing up children is not necessary, but you will not escape from the repercussions. You will need these children at your old age, be part of their lives. They will also recognize you as a caring father. Sometimes what they only need is your wise words!
Fathers, money is not everything, your presence matters too.
Be there for your children, whether you have money or not, your love to them means a lot!…and when you grow old, they will not need any introduction to address you. Let us all take part fully in raising our children. The task is not as easy as it may look to be.
Fathers… don’t just father the child…be a Dad too!
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Just recently, an NGO gave alarming data on numbers of teenage girls expecting to give birth soon. According to Citizen TV, this young girl gave birth to triplets. Guess who is responsible…a 13 year old boy..where are we heading to..what does law say about such incidents…
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Many times we tend to ignore the presence of children when we are discussing our parents-related issues. In the modern community, parents talk some sensitive issues and they assume that children are understanding nothing or they are not interested.
As much as we are eager to teach our children morals and values, they also learn a lot from what they see us parents doing. Children learn much through observation and parents should mind their behaviour when addressing to some issues especially if the children are with them. Let’s look at this scenario:
John was driving home accompanied by his 4year old child. While he was driving, his boy was playing a game using his phone. There was high traffic and everyone was struggling to get home before dark. As every market has a mad man, some drivers find it difficult to practise patience, so one driver drove past John using the wrong side of the road. He almost hit John’s car as he squeezed his car to find way out. When John so that, he shouted in anger, ” Stupid you mad man!” At all this time, his boy was busy playing with his father’s phone. After driving for a half an hour, another driver pulled out of the traffic trying to overlap. John was busy setting his radio and so he did not notice it. It wasn’t long before he was interrupted by his boy. ” Dad Dad! Look at that stupid mad man what he is doing over there.!” John was surprised not to say a word. He had not realized that he had become a perfect teacher to his boy until he heard it. He wondered what to tell the boy now that those were the same words he had used previously. He pretended to be busy but the son made sure that the father got the message. After realizing that the boy could not stop insisting, he said, “Leave him alone. Just continue with your game.” John continued with his journey but disturbed. He had realized that was not the best parent to emulate. He had Learnt his lesson and he decided to make a change in his character for the sake of his son.
a) If it were you what would you have done?
b) What type of character is your child getting from you?
So next time you act abnormally, take precaution. Your child may make the best duplicate out of you. Parents let’s try to be role models to our children. This will make it easier for us to guide their behaviour.
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Are our children safe from corona virus..
It is sad that children have been left to go on with their daily activities. They are relating and playing as if covid 19 is a fiction. Schools were closed to keep children safe but it is like this is not working.
When parents go for job, these children are left all alone and they are free to meet with their friends without minding the impact of the pandemic. Most of them are seen not bothering to take the precautions needed. They never use masks nor keep social distance.
My question is…are these children safe? Is keeping them out of school protecting them from being victims?
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It has been a long time since schools were indefinitely closed due to Covid 19.
It was a surprise to many as this caught them unaware. How they had to swallow the bitter pill as there was no other option to save the children from the pandemic.
Since then, it has not been easy to stay with children for such a long time bearing in mind that some live in high populated areas.Some of the parents have said it openly why it has been hard to stay with their children for such a long time and it is their prayer this will come to an end soon.
This are some of the reasons they gave:
Children cannot learn by themselves without the help of the teacher. They don’t take parents seriously when they give the assignments . Some of the parents are not aware on what is taught in school. Others know little about the syllabus.
Controlling children has not been easy, This is because they are staying in small rooms and keeping children congested in a room for a whole day is not easy to them.They better go outside where they would have a wider space for their activities.
Some parents are still going to their working places, hence children are left unattended. They(the children)may take advantage of this and engage themselves with immoral behaviours which parent could not advocate for if they were around.
Some children are still too young to understand why they are being told that it is not right to play with their peers.Keeping them in the house all day is not that simple.
Then there are the teenagers who most of the time they feel they are always right. This brings conflict between them and the parents.Sometimes they take advantage of the absence of the parent to do immoral things which could land them in danger.The parents have to deep more in their pockets for the unexpected budget.
It is a prayer to every parent that things will be back to normal soonest. As parents should also know this.
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