Is your child stressed? Check these signs.

Children also get stressed

The challenges that have come with the corona virus are not only being experienced by adult but children are not spared too. Children have been suffering silently without parents’ knowledge.

Childhood stress can be present in any setting that requires the child to adapt or change. Stress may be caused by positive changes, such as starting a new activity, but it is most commonly linked with negative changes such as illness or death in the family.

You can help your child by learning to recognize the signs of stress and teaching your child healthy ways to deal with it.

Stress may be a response to a negative change in a child’s life. In small amounts, stress can be good. But, excessive stress can affect the way a child thinks, acts, and feels.

Children learn how to respond to stress as they grow and develop. Many stressful events that an adult can manage will cause stress in a child. As a result, even small changes can impact a child’s feelings of safety and security.

Pain, injury, illness, and other changes are stressors for children. Stressors may include:

• Worrying about schoolwork or grades
• Juggling responsibilities, such as school and work or sports
• Problems with friends, bullying, or peer group pressures
• Changing schools, moving, or dealing with housing problems or homelessness
• Having negative thoughts about themselves
• Going through body changes, in both boys and girls
• Seeing parents go through a divorce or separation
• Money problems in the family
• Living in an unsafe home or neighborhood

SIGNS OF UNRESOLVED STRESS IN CHILDREN

Children may not recognize that they are stressed. New or worsening symptoms may lead parents to suspect an increased stress level is present.

Physical symptoms can include:

• Decreased appetite, other changes in eating habits
• Headache
• New or recurrent bedwetting
• Nightmares
• Sleep disturbances
• Upset stomach or vague stomach pain
• Other physical symptoms with no physical illness

Emotional or behavioral symptoms may include:

• Anxiety, worry
• Not able to relax
• New or recurring fears (fear of the dark, fear of being alone, fear of strangers)
• Clinging, unwilling to let you out of sight
• Anger, crying, whining
• Not able to control emotions
• Aggressive or stubborn behavior
• Going back to behaviors present at a younger age
• Doesn’t want to participate in family or school activities

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP

Parents can help children respond to stress in healthy ways. Following are some tips:

• Provide a safe, secure, and dependable home.
• Family routines can be comforting. Having a family dinner or movie night can help relieve or prevent stress.
• Be a role model. The child looks to you as a model for healthy behavior. Do your best to keep your own stress under control and manage it in healthy ways.
• Be careful about which television programs, books, and games that young children watch, read, and play. News broadcasts and violent shows or games can produce fears and anxiety.
• Keep your child informed of anticipated changes such as in jobs or moving.
• Spend calm, relaxed time with your children.
• Learn to listen. Listen to your child without being critical or trying to solve the problem right away. Instead work with your child to help them understand and solve what is upsetting to them.
• Build your child’s feelings of self-worth. Use encouragement and affection. Use rewards,to involve your child in activities where they can succeed.
• Allow the child opportunities to make choices and have some control in their life. The more your child feels they have control over a situation, the better their response to stress will be.
• Encourage physical activity.
• Recognize signs of unresolved stress in your child.
• Seek help or advice from a health care provider, counselor, or therapist when signs of stress do not decrease or disappear.

WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR

Talk to your child’s provider if your child:

• Is becoming withdrawn, more unhappy, or depressed
• Is having problems in school or interacting with friends or family
• Is unable to control their behavior or anger

We can all help our children on how to cope with stress….also visit other recent posts below.

Signs of mental illness in children

It’s important to recognize and treat mental illnesses in children early on. Once mental illness develops, it becomes a regular part of your child’s behavior. This makes it more difficult to treat.

But it’s not always easy to know when your child has a serious problem. Everyday stresses can cause changes in your child’s behavior. For example, getting a new brother or sister or going to a new school may cause a child to temporarily act out. Warning signs that it might be a more serious problem include

• Problems in more than one setting (at school, at home, with peers)
• Changes in appetite or sleep
• Social withdrawal or fear of things he or she did not used to be not afraid of
• Returning to behaviors more common in younger children, such as bedwetting
• Signs of being upset, such as sadness or tearfulness
• Signs of self-destructive behavior, such as head-banging or suddenly getting hurt often
• Repeated thoughts of death

To diagnose mental health problems, the doctor or mental health specialist looks at your child’s signs and symptoms, medical history, and family history. Treatments include medicines and talk therapy.

Take action when you can make a difference. See stress and discipline in children

Christmas Eve! – Ciscasquapro

What seemed like it will never come to be in month of January is now here with us. Yes! Tomorrow is Christmas! How are you ushering it? I believe by now we are all set on how to celebrate our Christmas Holidays.

However, some challenges though. A lot of people traveling to different parts of the country causing congestion at bus station making it very difficult for people to maintain social distance as to covid 19 guidelines.

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True to say that the transport business is really booming now that they don’t wait for people to board. People started booking earlier enough and for those who didn’t, they are finding it tough. Sometimes they are forced to postpone their journey due to lack of means of transport.

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For those having personal means, they are not spared either. Traffic jam has become a nuisance along the highways. This has been brought by a large number traveling using their means while others hire cars for Christmas Holidays.

The SGR trains are already fully booked. The train to Nanyuki from Nairobi has been forced to reschedule its program to meet the demand of a high number of passengers.

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Supermarkets and malls are overcrowded as people struggle to get their best for Christmas. Christmas trees and Christmas lights business taking the frontline. People are seen shopping luxuriously as this is not a daily way of doing it. Such kind of shopping mostly comes once in a year to most of the people and so is something to be celebrated for.

For those who will be slaughtering, the animal is just within the compound waiting for the D-Day. Yeah, waiting to throw a party!

That’s how things are here. I thought coronavirus pandemic would hinder the festive mood, but people are determined to visit their loved ones.

What about at your place? How are people ushering the Christmas?

#ChristmassEve

Christmas rush! Don’t be left out.

What seemed like it will never come to be in month of January is now here with us. Yes! two days counting to Christmas! How are you ushering it? I believe by now we are all set on how to celebrate our Christmas Holidays.

However, some challenges though. A lot of people traveling to different parts of the country causing congestion at bus station making it very difficult for people to maintain social distance as to covid 19 guidelines.

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True to say that the transport business is really booming now that they don’t wait for people to board. People started booking earlier enough and for those who didn’t, they are finding it tough. Sometimes they are forced to postpone their journey due to lack of means of transport.

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For those having personal means, they are not spared either. Traffic jam has become a nuisance along the highways. This has been brought by a large number traveling using their means while others hire cars for Christmas Holidays.

The SGR trains are already fully booked. The train to Nanyuki from Nairobi has been forced to reschedule its program to meet the demand of a high number of passengers.

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Supermarkets and malls are overcrowded as people struggle to get their best for Christmas. Christmas trees and Christmas lights business taking the frontline. People are seen shopping luxuriously as this is not a daily way of doing it. Such kind of shopping mostly comes once in a year to most of the people and so is something to be celebrated for.

For those who will be slaughtering, the animal is just within the compound waiting for the D-Day. Yeah, waiting to throw a party!

That’s how things are here. I thought coronavirus pandemic would hinder the festive mood, but people are determined to visit their loved ones.

What about at your place? How are people ushering the Christmas?

Christmas rush!

What seemed like it will never come to be in month of January is now here with us. Yes! three days counting to Christmas! How are you ushering it? I believe by now we are all set on how to celebrate our Christmas Holidays.

However, some challenges though. A lot of people traveling to different parts of the country causing congestion at bus station making it very difficult for people to maintain social distance as to covid 19 guidelines.

True to say that the transport business is really booming now that they don’t wait for people to board. People started booking earlier enough and for those who didn’t, they are finding it tough. Sometimes they are forced to postpone their journey due to lack of means of transport.

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• 

For those having personal means, they are not spared either. Traffic jam has become a nuisance along the highways. This has been brought by a large number traveling using their means while others hire cars for Christmas Holidays.

• 

• 

Supermarkets and malls are overcrowded as people struggle to get their best for Christmas. Christmas trees and Christmas lights business taking the frontline. People are seen shopping luxuriously as this is not a daily way of doing it. Such kind of shopping mostly comes once in a year to most of the people and so is something to be celebrated for.

For those who will be slaughtering, the animal is just within the compound waiting for the D-Day. Yeah, waiting to throw a party!

That’s how things are here. What about at your place? How are people ushering the Christmas?

Best new strategies to think of amidst the covid 19 pandemic

Do you believe in this statement that says, ” a blessing in disguise?” Sometimes some pressure is applied in own lives to make us leave our comfort zones. It isn’t always that tragedy strike for the worse. When this happens, let’s sit and reflect on the positive change we can make out of the situation. We may be tempted to complain, but life must continue….So what? ..Come up with new strategy to counteract the situation…try out other skills…be positive and move forward.

You can too learn it from this Story:

Once upon a time, in a faraway land, there lived a Chinese wise man and his disciple. One day during their travels, they saw a hut in the distance. As they approached it, they realized that it was occupied, in spite of its extremely poor appearance.

In that desolate place where there were no crops and no trees, a man lived with his wife, three young children and a thin, tired cow. Since they were hungry and thirsty, the wise man and his disciple stopped for a few hours and were well received. At one point, the wise man asked:
“This is a very poor place, far away from anything. How do you survive?”
“You see that cow? That’s what keeps us going,” said the head of the family. “She gives us milk, some of it we drink and some we turn into cheese. When there is extra, we go into the city and exchange the milk and cheese for other types of food. That’s how we survive.”

The wise man thanked them for their hospitality and left. When he reached the first bend in the road, he said to his disciple:

“Go back, get the cow, take her to the cliff in front of us, and push her off.” The disciple could not believe what he was hearing.

“I cannot do that, master! How can you be so ungrateful? The cow is all they have. If I throw it off the cliff, they will have no way of surviving. Without the cow, they will all die!”

The wise man, an elderly Chinese man, took a deep breath and repeated the order:“Go ahead. Push the cow off the cliff.”

Though outraged at what he was being asked to do, the disciple had to obey his master. He returned to the hut and quietly led the animal to the edge of the cliff and pushed. The cow fell down the cliff and died.

As the years passed by, remorse for what he had done never left the disciple. One spring day, the guilt became too much to bear and he left the wise man and returned to that little shack. He wanted to find out what had happened to that family, to help them out, apologize, or somehow make amends. Upon rounding a turn in the road, he could not believe what his eyes were showing him. In place of the poor shack, there was a beautiful house with trees all around, a swimming pool, several cars in the garage, a satellite dish, and more. Three good-looking teenagers and the parents were celebrating their million dollars

The heart of the disciple froze. What could have happened to the family? Without a doubt, they must have been starving to death and forced to sell their land and leave. At that moment, the disciple thought they must all be begging on the street corners of some city. He approached the house and asked a man that was passing by, about the whereabouts of the family that had lived there several years before.

“You are looking at it,” said the man, pointing to the people gathered around the barbecue. Unable to believe what he was hearing, the disciple walked through the gate and took a few steps closer to the pool where he recognized the man from several years before, only now he was strong and confident, the woman was happy, and the children were now good looking teenagers. He was dumbfounded, and went over to the man and asked:

“What happened? I was here with my teacher a few years ago and this was a miserable place. There was nothing. What did you do to improve your lives in such a short time?”

The man looked at the disciple, and replied with a smile:

“We had a cow that kept us alive. She was all we had. But one day she fell down the cliff and died. To survive, we had to start doing other things, develop skills we didn’t even know we had. And so, because we were forced to come up with new ways of doing things, we are now much better off than before.”

My question is, WHO OR WHAT IS THAT ‘COW’ IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU NEED TO PUSH OFF THE CLIFF? _Many a time, we have let our dependence on certain people, things or situation, create a comfort zone and limit us from achieving greater things. Personally, I am very ‘cautious’ in nature and it takes me a lot to let go and climb to another level. You may feel terrible at first, but in the end, it will all be worth it.

From the conversation in the end, the man says that they had to develop skills and do other things when their only ‘source of survival was dead’. At times we need to lose that job to realize that we can actually do well in business. Sometimes that business needs to fail, to realize that we can do well in other things. Sometimes a situation in our lives may have to fail for us to realize that we deserve and can get better.

The pandemic may have pushed your cow down the cliff. The cow that made you not to realize your full potential. Do not cry anymore… Stand up! … venture into your hidden skills and you will make it!

Hope you have learnt something too. Feel free to comment on it….follow too for more posts.

August Thanksgiving – Ciscasquapro

Since the pandemic knocked our doors, it has not been a walk in the park. A lot of challenges came with it. Many have lost their lives leaving their loved ones grieving. May their souls rest in peace.

If you happen to read these few lines, know that you are among the lucky ones that God has spared. So let’s praise Him for his mighty protection.

Thumbs up for all who have worked tirelessly to make sure they have tried all what they can to save a life from the pandemic. May God continue protecting you.

As we start a new month, we pray that our God will continue guiding us through the month. May his love never depart from us. His mercies endures forever!

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  Ciscasquapro

Have a blessed and a happy new month.

Facebook, Twitter, YouTube pull ‘false’ coronavirus video after it goes viral

https://www.cnbc.com/2020/07/28/facebook-twitter-youtube-pull-false-coronavirus-video-after-it-goes-viral.html

Highest Covid 19 cases in Kenya

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Today Kenya has recorded the highest number of covid 19 cases since the first case was mentioned. This is according to Ministry of Health. 960 is a number that all of us should worry about. It seems that the virus is spreading at a very high rate and we should take precautions. So let’s use our mask correctly, keep social distance, wash hands frequently and avoid gatherings as much as possible.

Papa Shirandula…gone too soon

Diaspora Messenger News MediaJalango Among 5 Celebrities Nurtured By Papa Shirandula: Papa Shirandula, a show that has aired on Citizen TV for over 10 years, has been the career turning point for a number of Kenyan celebrities.The post Jalango Among 5 Celebrities Nurtured By Papa Shirandula appeared first on Diaspora Messenger News Media.

Jalango Among 5 Celebrities Nurtured By Papa Shirandula — Diaspora Messenger News Media

Kenya Covid 19 updates

Today Kenya has recorded the highest number of covid 19 cases.688 people have contracted the corona virus.The CS Kagwe urged citizens to be extra careful and practise self discipline. He added that people Should be responsible in their own way to curb the spread of corona virus. For more post, see here

Children and mental health

It’s important to recognize and treat mental illnesses in children early on. Once mental illness develops, it becomes a regular part of your child’s behavior. This makes it more difficult to treat.

But it’s not always easy to know when your child has a serious problem. Everyday stresses can cause changes in your child’s behavior. For example, getting a new brother or sister or going to a new school may cause a child to temporarily act out. Warning signs that it might be a more serious problem include

• Problems in more than one setting (at school, at home, with peers)
• Changes in appetite or sleep
• Social withdrawal or fear of things he or she did not used to be not afraid of
• Returning to behaviors more common in younger children, such as bedwetting
• Signs of being upset, such as sadness or tearfulness
• Signs of self-destructive behavior, such as head-banging or suddenly getting hurt often
• Repeated thoughts of death

To diagnose mental health problems, the doctor or mental health specialist looks at your child’s signs and symptoms, medical history, and family history. Treatments include medicines and talk therapy.

Take action when you can make a difference. Also read stress in Children and discipline in children.

How to know when your child is stressed

Children also get stressed

The challenges that have come with the corona virus are not only being experienced by adult but children are not spared too. Children have been suffering silently without parents’ knowledge.

Childhood stress can be present in any setting that requires the child to adapt or change. Stress may be caused by positive changes, such as starting a new activity, but it is most commonly linked with negative changes such as illness or death in the family.

You can help your child by learning to recognize the signs of stress and teaching your child healthy ways to deal with it.

Stress may be a response to a negative change in a child’s life. In small amounts, stress can be good. But, excessive stress can affect the way a child thinks, acts, and feels.

Children learn how to respond to stress as they grow and develop. Many stressful events that an adult can manage will cause stress in a child. As a result, even small changes can impact a child’s feelings of safety and security.

Pain, injury, illness, and other changes are stressors for children. Stressors may include:

• Worrying about schoolwork or grades
• Juggling responsibilities, such as school and work or sports
• Problems with friends, bullying, or peer group pressures
• Changing schools, moving, or dealing with housing problems or homelessness
• Having negative thoughts about themselves
• Going through body changes, in both boys and girls
• Seeing parents go through a divorce or separation
• Money problems in the family
• Living in an unsafe home or neighborhood

SIGNS OF UNRESOLVED STRESS IN CHILDREN

Children may not recognize that they are stressed. New or worsening symptoms may lead parents to suspect an increased stress level is present.

Physical symptoms can include:

• Decreased appetite, other changes in eating habits
• Headache
• New or recurrent bedwetting
• Nightmares
• Sleep disturbances
• Upset stomach or vague stomach pain
• Other physical symptoms with no physical illness

Emotional or behavioral symptoms may include:

• Anxiety, worry
• Not able to relax
• New or recurring fears (fear of the dark, fear of being alone, fear of strangers)
• Clinging, unwilling to let you out of sight
• Anger, crying, whining
• Not able to control emotions
• Aggressive or stubborn behavior
• Going back to behaviors present at a younger age
• Doesn’t want to participate in family or school activities

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP

Parents can help children respond to stress in healthy ways. Following are some tips:

• Provide a safe, secure, and dependable home.
• Family routines can be comforting. Having a family dinner or movie night can help relieve or prevent stress.
• Be a role model. The child looks to you as a model for healthy behavior. Do your best to keep your own stress under control and manage it in healthy ways.
• Be careful about which television programs, books, and games that young children watch, read, and play. News broadcasts and violent shows or games can produce fears and anxiety.
• Keep your child informed of anticipated changes such as in jobs or moving.
• Spend calm, relaxed time with your children.
• Learn to listen. Listen to your child without being critical or trying to solve the problem right away. Instead work with your child to help them understand and solve what is upsetting to them.
• Build your child’s feelings of self-worth. Use encouragement and affection. Use rewards,to involve your child in activities where they can succeed.
• Allow the child opportunities to make choices and have some control in their life. The more your child feels they have control over a situation, the better their response to stress will be.
• Encourage physical activity.
• Recognize signs of unresolved stress in your child.
• Seek help or advice from a health care provider, counselor, or therapist when signs of stress do not decrease or disappear.

WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR

Talk to your child’s provider if your child:

• Is becoming withdrawn, more unhappy, or depressed
• Is having problems in school or interacting with friends or family
• Is unable to control their behavior or anger

We can all help our children on how to cope with stress….also visit other posts here

Kenya in Africa lifts the lockdown

The president has directed the lifting of the lockdown in various town including Nairobi. Now people are free to travel, but he farther warned people to be responsible as this may cause more harm than good.

The 9pm curfew has been extended for another 30 days… According to Star, https://www.the-star.co.ke/news/2020-07-06-uhuru-reopens-nairobi-mombasa-extends-curfew-for-30-days/ the country might be at risk of more infection.

6th July President’s Speech in Nairobi,Kenya.

The president opens the towns that were under lockdown..

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The city of monkeys – Ciscasquapro

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monkeys invading the city.

Many are times when monkeys have been a center of attraction to both young and old. Everyone enjoys their company. But this isn’t the case at Thailand during this pandemic. It isn’t business as usual. Monkeys have been terrorising citizens making them to lock themselves insides their houses affecting their daily business. They have taken over the hotels that were used by tourist before covid 19. You can see more post here

What will happen to patients of Covid 19 in Kenya – Ciscasquapro

It is sad that the country cannot support the covid 19 patients in public hospitals and therefore advocating for homecare based therapy. This may be a big task as a number of citizens might not be able to handle the patients. It can also lead to more spread of the virus. If the children are not safe from covid 19, how will it be possible for family members to take care of the victims without the required attire? Remember Impact of Covid 19 on traveling has contributed to so many other challenges. This means that family members cannot travel to visit their sick relatives of whom they are supposed to be taking care of. It is like the pandemic is not leaving us soon. According to how things are going, the numbers of affected people is increasing day by day. And if this continues, Should kenyan students seat for their national exams this year? The irony is, school were closed because of one case of Covid 19, now they are expected to be opened when the number is increasing. With this homecare based treatment, will the parents be able to handle cases of the virus in schools? I think this is an issue that need to be revisited.

Why business has been affected at Namanga -Tanzania border -Ciscas

The pandemic has made the smooth running of business at the border a bit hectic. Disagreement between Kenya and Tanzania on testing of corona virus has made the truck drivers spend days before they are cleared at the border. Some days ago, the two governments (kenya and Tanzania) tried to come up with a solution which is trying to work but not to the expectation of the traders.

The border used to be a busy place where even small business people were getting their catch. Fear of the novel virus has reduced the movement in and out of the neighbouring countries bringing a negative impact to the business sector.

Scaling the height-Ciscasquapro

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