How to deal with a teenage boy’s behaviour – Ciscasquapro

As I mentioned in the previous post on raising a teenage boy it is not as easy because this is the time when the boys feel they have become men. The recent incident on the teenage boy who stole his father’s car and caused a fatal accident is only a few of example s to show that boys can go any extent at this age. Below are a few keys to look into when dealing with These teenage boys. Also see on how to discipline the children. If you missed the post on teenagers and Relationship, you may want to see it here

Five Keys for Dealing with Teenage Boy Behavior:

• Set limits. First, parents and teen boys agree to set rules that both agree on. The rules are based on shared values about staying safe and keeping harmony in the family.
• Write it down. Furthermore, families might consider drafting a written agreement. Therefore, the guidelines and boundaries are clear to everyone.
• Agree on consequences. Next, parents and sons agree on age-appropriate consequences that will go into effect if the rules are broken. For example, a consequence might be loss of car privileges or an earlier curfew. Moreover, the consequence should be age-appropriate.
• Invoke restitution. In addition, parents and teen boys can use a consequence known as restitution or restoration. Hence, teens help make a situation better after violating the shared contract. For example, if they get a speeding ticket, they pay it on their own. Or they take steps to repair a relationship with a sibling after a fight. As a result, a teen can earn back parents’ trust.
• Avoid severe punishment. However, severe punishment is not the best approach for dealing with your teenage son. In fact, punishment can make things worse. Teenage boys may feel rejected and resentful. Hence, they may withdraw further from their parents.

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Happy Fathers’ Day – Ciscasquapro

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  A card to all responsible fathers

I really feel to appreciate all responsible Dads who work tirelessly to make sure their families don’t miss a thing. Though sometimes it might be challenging, but they always go an extra mile through thick and thin to make their ends meet. Bravo! To such Dads. Keep up the good work...Happy Fathers’ Day!

Why parents should mind some of their behaviours when with children.

Many times we tend to ignore the presence of children when we are discussing our parents-related issues. In the modern community, parents talk some sensitive issues and they assume that children are understanding nothing or they are not interested.

As much as we are eager to teach our children morals and values, they also learn a lot from what they see us parents doing. Children learn much through observation and parents should mind their behaviour when addressing to some issues especially if the children are with them. Let’s look at this scenario:

John was driving home accompanied by his 4year old child. While he was driving, his boy was playing a game using his phone. There was high traffic and everyone was struggling to get home before dark. As every market has a mad man, some drivers find it difficult to practise patience, so one driver drove past John using the wrong side of the road. He almost hit John’s car as he squeezed his car to find way out. When John so that, he shouted in anger, ” Stupid you mad man!” At all this time, his boy was busy playing with his father’s phone. After driving for a half an hour, another driver pulled out of the traffic trying to overlap. John was busy setting his radio and so he did not notice it. It wasn’t long before he was interrupted by his boy. ” Dad Dad! Look at that stupid mad man what he is doing over there.!” John was surprised not to say a word. He had not realized that he had become a perfect teacher to his boy until he heard it. He wondered what to tell the boy now that those were the same words he had used previously. He pretended to be busy but the son made sure that the father got the message. After realizing that the boy could not stop insisting, he said, “Leave him alone. Just continue with your game.” John continued with his journey but disturbed. He had realized that was not the best parent to emulate. He had Learnt his lesson and he decided to make a change in his character for the sake of his son.

a) If it were you what would you have done?
b) What type of character is your child getting from you?

So next time you act abnormally, take precaution. Your child may make the best duplicate out of you. Parents let’s try to be role models to our children. This will make it easier for us to guide their behaviour.